October 27, 2014
Sex By Sign 13: Monthly Astrology for November 2014
The Sun is now in Scorpio, having arrived on Oct. 23 with some fireworks — the Moon, Venus and the Sun entered within hours of one another, followed by a solar eclipse. So this time around, when the sky says Scorpio, it means SCORPIO. And this sign, as you may know, is the sign of sex. True, it’s also the sign of surrender, transformation and death — but it’s the sign that rules the genitals, and which is symbolized in some occult illustrations by the DNA double helix (dating back to before the discovery of DNA). Yet among the planets in Scorpio is Saturn, which is the lord of Take Things Seriously. Yes, some of the best comedians have a strong Saturn. People who can actually handle polyamory often have a strong Saturn. That is because they can set their own boundaries, and live with discipline that Saturn is the first to reward, and does so generously.
ARIES (March 20-April 19)
Good sex requires discipline. It’s not all about “doin’ what comes naturally”. Sex requires knowledge (such as from reading books and listening to what the old masters have to say). It requires the ability to be fully present, and the sincere desire to make contact with another person. This may all seem to go without saying, though I doubt it. The most important aspect of discipline is relational. There is the element of feeling and working with chemistry (rather than relying on control or dominance). There’s the element of mutual respect. There is figuring out what your partner really wants and knowing what you want. It’s all worth it.
TAURUS (April 19-May 20)
Sex leads to relationships and relationships lead to sex. Isn’t that wonderful? I think that if we were to start from this basic concept, we would have a lot better understanding of what to expect from life. True, people exhibit some inverted awareness in how much resistance they put up when the possibility of intimacy presents itself, and I suggest you monitor that particular gauge of biological and spiritual reality. Intimacy requires surrender, which is the opposite of resistance. Sex invites surrender, which is the opposite of domination and control. Try it — you’ll like it.
GEMINI (May 20-June 21)
Sexual healing is this thing that just about everyone wants and needs, and nobody knows where to find. The place to start is with yourself. Healing, in theory, leads to the state of being healthy — so start with what healthy means to you and work your way backwards. But not as fast as I said those words. The concept of wellbeing calls for careful reflection, especially since sex has been made into a matter of pathology rather than one of celebration. You might start with anything related to that one distinction.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Go for it — have all the fun you want, or all the fun you can. Your life will not go off the rails if you do. Planets are now collected in Scorpio, which is for you a sign directly associated with sexual fun. Yes, Scorpio goes deeper than that, and you will be taken there, in different ways. It’s also true that there is a boundary, a kind of limit, but the message of the planets is that what you may perceive as a limit in your bliss is gradually moving. Nudge it along. Experiment with your capacity for pleasure. Stretch and reach, in measurable degrees.
LEO (July 22-Aug. 23)
There is only so secure good sex can be. Yes, we try to cement that amazing emotional and biological experience into various forms of promise, commitment, partnership agreements, household arrangements or legal contracts. These are usually defenses against vulnerability, and a desire to preserve the good feeling. But what if you proceeded with no defenses, and recognized that the amazing feelings of sex and passion are temporary rather than permanent? Have you experimented with that? It’s a whole other world that can open up for you.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sep. 22)
Sex is normally regarded as private, the most private thing, though I would contend that it’s the most public. When you step out the door, you advertise yourself, whether you like it or not, whether consciously or not. And it seems that no matter what pains people go through to keep (for example) their sex photos secret, they have a way of being published, distributed or seen by someone else. I suggest you approach sex from the other way this month, by assuming that the topic is open and available, experimenting with that and then finding the occasional secluded location or quiet moment.
LIBRA (Sept. 22-Oct. 23)
Many people don’t consider masturbation real sex. But then there are plenty of people who don’t consider sex to be real sex and have the best and/or only sex with themselves. For you, the two are closely related. Partner sex and masturbation exist in a close co-existence — what a biologist would call symbiosis. When you are flowing with your energy, one feeds the other and both support one another. One way to experiment with this is to make masturbation relational, that is, do it with partners or maybe even a friend. You may notice that both modes of eroticism, self-sex and partner sex, are a lot more fun as a result.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 22)
The question is, what do you want? You are likely to discover many things that you don’t want, or that don’t serve you, and that may eliminate most of the possibilities on your list. That is the thing about desire — there are so many possibilities and in the end, so few encounters, achievements or material possessions that really make a difference. The thing to do here seems to be embracing giving up what you don’t want so that you make room for what you want the most.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 22)
Most people seem to keep their sexual fantasy life far from their physical reality. It’s as if there is this line that’s not supposed to be crossed, which extends into admitting what one really wants, even to one who might be able to provide it for you. The thing is, what you want, and what you’re considering, has so much feeling and psychic substance that you can barely contain yourself, and I would say you have no reason to. Ok, some people will think you’re weird (i.e., they are embarrassed). It is, however, time to smear this supposed ‘line of appropriateness’ like so much finger paint and mush those gorgeous colors together.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 20)
The power of desire is astonishing, and one of the most compelling factors in the erotic landscape. It is more compelling than beauty, attractiveness, money or aggression. The hitch is that this does not work when half-baked or half-felt. Desire is something you experience with your whole being, with your mind and body, heart and soul. It is a knowingness that transcends questions, limitations and ethics. And you have this power in your hands, and will increasingly as the day’s progress. What will you do with it? What will you choose? Will you include the optional factors of honesty and fairness?
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 19)
Ultimately, everyone is submissive. We must eventually submit to our feelings, to desire, to love, to the choices of others, to existence and to death. You may as well start with yourself — to any aspect of life that requires coming to terms with who you are. You seem to be on a quest for what looks like the evolutionary key, the key to your growth. I can give you a clue what it is: it’s the thing about yourself that turns you on the most, and also the one you’re probably reluctant to state outwardly to others.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
As the invocation of existence, sex is the original religion, in the true sense of the word — the ligament that connects us to the universe. You know this even if you don’t stand on the street corner giving out pamphlets saying it’s so (which sadly don’t yet exist, and would make a fun art project). Yet you are free to live as if it’s true; free, that is, as long as you practice the first law of liberation, which is discipline. Ok, I concede that at times revolt is the first law of liberation, but not now, not for you. If you seek sexual freedom, focus yourself, maintain awareness and choose wisely.
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